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No glossy brochures here. What you’ll find instead are stories from the road — the hand-drawn maps, the detours nobody warned us about, and the landmarks you only recognize if you’ve lived them.

Think of this as the motel’s Tourist Info rack, minus the coupons for wax museums and chain buffets. Instead, you’ll find essays, reflections, and maybe a little gallows humor — all part of navigating life as one of the biologically bewildered.

Take what you need, leave what doesn’t fit, and check back often. The stack’s always changing.

Some of the first stops you’ll see here come from reflections written over two years, marking our 25th reunion anniversary. We wrote in dialogue — Point A, then Point B — trading perspectives on the same themes. Think of them as postcards back and forth, saved here for fellow travelers who might recognize the landscape.

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Mirrors We Didn’t Know We Needed

Genetic mirroring can be both beautiful and heartbreaking for adoptees and birth families. Sometimes it shows up in the shape of a smile, the way hands move, or even how...

Mirrors We Didn’t Know We Needed

Genetic mirroring can be both beautiful and heartbreaking for adoptees and birth families. Sometimes it shows up in the shape of a smile, the way hands move, or even how...

The Search That Never Stops

Both birth parents and adoptees share the same haunting question: “Would I even recognize you?” Post #7 explores the endless searching, the faces in the crowd, and how reunion changes...

The Search That Never Stops

Both birth parents and adoptees share the same haunting question: “Would I even recognize you?” Post #7 explores the endless searching, the faces in the crowd, and how reunion changes...

Breaking the Silence

For generations, birthmothers were told to stay silent — never speak, never share, never remember. In this post, we explore the weight of secrecy, the struggle to find our voices,...

Breaking the Silence

For generations, birthmothers were told to stay silent — never speak, never share, never remember. In this post, we explore the weight of secrecy, the struggle to find our voices,...

Fantasies and Fears

Adoption fantasies take many forms—wondering if a birth parent thought of you, or imagining the family you might have had. For one of us, the fantasy was telling the truth....

Fantasies and Fears

Adoption fantasies take many forms—wondering if a birth parent thought of you, or imagining the family you might have had. For one of us, the fantasy was telling the truth....

The Good Adoptee and the Missing Milestones

Reunion can bring joy, but it can’t rewrite history. A birth mom reflects on the moments she’ll never recover, while an adoptee shares the struggle of being torn between pleasing...

The Good Adoptee and the Missing Milestones

Reunion can bring joy, but it can’t rewrite history. A birth mom reflects on the moments she’ll never recover, while an adoptee shares the struggle of being torn between pleasing...

Adoptee Voice: The Empty Spot That Became Whole

"I never understood the ache I carried until reunion filled the empty spot in my soul. This post reflects on what it means to finally feel whole."

Adoptee Voice: The Empty Spot That Became Whole

"I never understood the ache I carried until reunion filled the empty spot in my soul. This post reflects on what it means to finally feel whole."